Labels or Love

As I listened to the lyrics of the Fergie song "Labels or Love" I couldn't help but wonder...are we so tragically damaged by past relationships that we will truly accept buying a bag over love? It is interesting to note that in both cases, we choose something. I think most of us, myself included, have felt like we are "chosen." I like the concept of choosing to be in love (and of course I like the choosing part of shopping). I think it lends more credibility to the notion that we can choose to make a relationship work, we can choose to be nice instead of mean to a co-worker, and we can choose to be a good parent. By choosing, we admit some level of responsibility in that aspect of our lives. That being said, I would not wish a broken heart on anyone. I am sure most of us thirtysomethings have experienced it at some point in our life. It is the most painful experience. I guess that is where the shopping comes in..retail therapy anyone? Plus, I have yet to meet a Jimmy Choo that breaks my heart. Let's face it; relationships take communication, commitment, and sometimes plain old work. Relationships can also be the most rewarding, life changing, and incredible experiences we will have in life. As much as I would not wish a broken heart on someone, I also would not wish anyone the safety of never falling in love. Knowing that the person you hold dear to your heart is there for you no matter what is one of the most secure feelings we can hope to attain. Knowing you would do anything for them and they would do anything for you cannot be traded for a good pair of shoes. I think the best part of being in love is looking at them after 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years and still finding the same soul you fell in love with a long time ago. It is something every person deserves and should experience in life. So, given the choice between labels and love...I choose love (although a nice pair of Manolo Blahnik's wouldn't hurt either). Maybe I will create my own version of labels and love....